How Do You See Yourself? How Do Other People See You? Why Do You Care?

Hello my friends! Ahhh – so many questions today! This is not the blog post I had planned for today but one must listen to the calling of inner wisdom, that wee small voice in the back of the mind, that guides us.

So, the first question is “How Do You See Yourself?” If I put out a poll to 1000 people and those people were all 100% honest, the results would be that most people, especially women, see themselves in some sort of negative way. “I’m too fat. I’m too skinny. I’m too tall. I’m too short. I have an ugly nose. I have an ugly body. I’m socially awkward. I’m a nerd that nobody likes. I’m so weird nobody could ever love me. I’m not smart enough to ever be successful.” And on and on and on! Why? Why do we do this to ourselves? Believe me, I have done it to myself my whole life. I always saw myself as an awkward, oddball, misfit who somehow didn’t deserve to be successful in life even though I owned my own business that was hugely successful. No matter how successful the business became, I always thought it wasn’t good enough which translated to I wasn’t good enough. Oh, I put up the good front. I acted self confident and happy about things but inside was a different story. I felt like I had this beautiful, creative, joyful soul deep inside me that had been beaten into submission through the life experiences we all go through. You know, the failed tests, the undone homework, the failed relationships, the lost jobs, the cruel comments from others, the embarrassing mistakes that make you want to die, the financial failures, etc. These are the things we fixate on our whole lives instead of focusing on all the successes we have had in life. We forget about the awards we won, the people we helped, the children we shaped, the unbelievable hardships we overcame. Believe me, I understand!

But then something miraculous happened. One of the two or three people in the world who knows me all the way to my soul gave me a birthday card. On the front of the card was a picture of the most adorable, joyful, little girl I had ever seen. Then my friend said to me, “that picture is SO YOU!” My friend of 45 years who has seen me through the good, the bad and the ugly, didn’t see the weird, broken, misfit me that I saw. In her eyes, I was this joyful child on the card! At that instant, something deep inside me shifted. She didn’t see the failed human me, she saw my soul. My soul awakened and felt safe to come to the surface. Then I had to ask myself a question. If she saw me in this way, was it possible that others in my life saw me differently than I saw myself? After a lifetime of assuming others saw me as the awkward, oddball, misfit, was it possible that others actually saw my good qualities? I started to believe it might be possible! What a great feeling! Could this also be true for you? Is it possible that those close to you have never ever seen you as the failed and flawed being you see yourself to be? Could it be that they see you for who you really are – a divinely created soul? I absolutely believe this is true for you! I absolutely believe that the “you” you see and the “you” they see are two entirely different versions of yourself. They see you for all your goodness and kindness and pure love. How wonderful would it be if you were able to see yourself through their eyes? Maybe its time to try!

All of this brings us to the final question: Why do you care how other people see you? Because the truth could set you free! How many years have you assumed that everyone around you sees you exactly as you see yourself? How life changing would it be if you came to believe that all those around you actually see you for who you really are under the damaged outer layer? What if those around you never judged you for the test you failed that they didn’t even know about or that time you fell down in public and everyone laughed? What if they forgot that ever happened or what if they did remember it happened but they also remembered the way you laughed together as they helped you to your feet? What if all the things you have been beating yourself up about for decades never even made it to the memory banks of those who love you? What if they remembered the time you stopped the car and ran to move a turtle out of the path of traffic? What if they remembered how you stood up for the child who was being bullied in school? What if they remembered the time you sat with them all night after a painful breakup? Why do you care? Because maybe they can see the real you and knowing that could change everything!

My challenge to you is to ask those closest to you what memory about you stands out most in their minds. Ask those close to you what qualities they see in you. Ask them how they see you. It might just change your world!

Thank you so much for being here!!! I look forward to being with you again in a couple of days.

Love and Light!

Suzy

A Happy and Harmonious Home Is In The Cards!

Welcome Back! I’m so glad you are here! Today is day 7 of our 78 days going through the Tarot cards. What a wonderful card we have pulled for today! Anyone who ever goes for a Tarot card reading would most likely feel the weight of the world lifted from their shoulders if this card appeared. The Ten of Cups shows us the perfect picture of a happy and harmonious home life. What a blessing!

First let’s look at the card. It shows a perfect, storybook cottage sitting on a lush, green lawn with an arching rainbow over top of it. Our 10 golden cups are placed on the rainbow to make a complete arch from the ground on one side of the cottage, over the roof and back to the ground on the other side. In the front yard are two beautiful, young women sitting on a bench working on a needlework project, a playful cat is in front of them. It perfectly tells the story of a peaceful, conflict free home. Just looking at the card makes me feel safe and happy!

Our homes are our refuge from the storms, our safe place when the rest of the world is in turmoil. We all need a soft place to land when the trials and tribulations of everyday life knock us off our feet. Coming home means so much to all of us.

According to numerology, the number 10 is reduced down to the number 1 which represents a new beginning. A home always indicates a new beginning. If a child grows up in a home filled with anger and hostility, or worse, with no home at all, purchasing his or her first home is even more important to him or her than to those of us who grew up in loving homes. It signals a new beginning, a fresh start in a home of his or her own. When a couple gets married and establishes their first home together, it is another new beginning. When a change in life come along that requires relocation to an unfamiliar place, finding a home is the first thing we need to do to make us feel grounded.

Home means everything! Having a happy home is a blessing beyond compare. As important as our earthly homes are, how much more divine will it be when we are finished with our earthly experience and get to go back to our spiritual homes? We know that our time here on Earth is short. We are here to learn lessons, complete missions and do our best to grow spiritually. Even in the best of circumstances, being here is hard! There are obstacles and challenges around every bend. Our earthly bodies get beat up along the way and start to degenerate as we age making everything even harder. We love and laugh. We scream and yell. We cry, worry and fret. Despite it all, we love our lives and our homes here on Earth. We do the very best with the cards we are dealt. None of us looks forward to the time we can shed these, heavy, dense bodies so that our spirits can return to our true home but what a glorious reunion it will be!

When we are born, God removes our memories of what our true home is like. If he didn’t, none of us would agree to stay here! LOL!!! We are given glimpses of what Heaven is like through our Holy Books but we can’t really remember. A few of us do remember brief glimpses of the glories awaiting our return, but not many. Knowing what reward is waiting at the end of this mission is what gets many of us through the tough days. The promise of returning home to God and the glories of Heaven makes it all worth while. When Heaven’s gate swings open and I feel the absolute love of God, when I hear the angels sing and when I run into the arms of all my spirit family members who have gone before, I will truly know that I am HOME – my ultimate soft place to land, my ultimate new beginning!

Thanks so much for being here! My gratitude for you is overflowing!

Love

Suzy

Shake Those Flabby Arms With Pride Girlfriend!!

Ladies!! Seriously! It’s time we all stop beating ourselves up!!! For many years we owned a Bridal Shop. It was the best part of me and it taught me so many amazing lessons. One of the best lessons I ever learned came flooding back to me this morning when I received a text message from my very best friend. Her son and youngest child is getting married later this year so she is looking for a Mother of the Groom dress. She sent me a picture of a gorgeous dress and asked my opinion. My dear friend is tall and slender and willowy and all the good things. The comment she sent me was that she liked it except that it would show her flabby arms!! This is the one issue I dealt with more than any other when working with Mothers! Their arms! SO many times there were tears and self loathing to the point they would just give up the search. My heart broke for all of these women just like it broke for my beloved best friend this morning!

I pray every women out there hears this message – so please share it with anyone who needs to hear it! Those arms of yours that you hate have literally changed the world! Be grateful for those arms! Those arms made your child the person he or she is today! Those arms cradled and comforted the newborn who suddenly came into a big, loud, scary world. Those arms rocked that child to sleep in the quiet of the night when it was just the two of you. Those arms hugged that child as he or she grew and faced new challenges. Those arms lifted that child up when he or she fell down. Those arms were strong when he or she needed a forceful push in the right direction. Those arms held your child close when he or she needed you no matter how old he or she was. Remember this: On your child’s wedding day, those arms will give your child the last hug he or she receives before becoming a husband or wife and creating a new, independent household. No one cares what your arms look like! The ONLY important thing is what those arms have done and your arms have done GREAT THINGS!!!

We live in a time of so much hatred! This person h@te$ that person and this group h@te$ that group and this side h@te$ that side and this nation h@te$ that nation and on and on it goes! If we are ever going to stop this cycle of h@te, we have to start with ourselves. If we are truly going to be able to love in a world filled with h@te, we have to start by looking in the mirror and loving the person staring back at us.

My prayer for all of us is to look in the mirror and shake those flabby arms with love and power! Those arms have truly made the world a better place.

Thank you for being here. Please take time to comment, like, share and subscribe. We are stronger together!

Love,

Suzy

It’s Not All Sunshine and Roses. Sometimes there is Melancholy.

Moments with Momma – volume 4

Most of the time Mom is upbeat about her new life in SW Florida, but there have been a couple of days when she has felt differently. When questioned, she had a hard time describing what she was feeling. Then she found the word – Melancholy.

Hmmm, Melancholy. What a dark, foreboding, yet somehow romantic word. When I hear the word, I immediately think about the harsh, raw, wind blowing across the damp and dreary Scottish Moors. I feel the heaviness of the clouds as they blanket the landscape. I can feel the chill creep into the very bones of the heroines of a romantic novel as she draws her woolen shawl tightly around her shoulders. She gazes across the desolate moors thinking about the love of her life whose life was cut short as he bravely fought for the future of the kingdom, leaving her alone, heavy with his child in this lonely land.

When I asked her what her thoughts were when she was feeling melancholy, what she said actually gave credence to the above description. She talks about things that will never be again such as how she hasn’t been truly happy since my dad passed away, about how so many of her great friends have passed, how she misses doing all the things she use to be able to do that she will never be able to do again. She says it’s a heaviness in the heart. It’s not sadness or regret, just a heaviness from missing the people and things that were.

She explained to me that one of the biggest blows to a person’s life is when his/her driving privileges are taken away. It’s like stripping the person of their freedom. When Mom moved down here we all decided it was not safe for her to drive. Her reaction time has slowed and she was in a new and unfamiliar place. I am here every minute of every day to take her anywhere she wants to go whenever she wants to go but, I guess it’s just not the same.

So, the question I have been sitting with over the past few days is this: what is the lesson I can take away from these conversations? The answer? I need to be fully present every moment and to be fully engaged in everything life puts in front of me. I need to love a little deeper and express that love more openly. I need to appreciate my friends more completely. I need to never take for granted the ability to move freely and to drive. I need to notice the beautiful things around me, to drink in the fragrances of the flowers, to feel the breeze on my skin. Most importantly – I need to be so filled with gratitude for every single experience I have that I feel as light as air. I need to mentally record every experience and every moment of joy so I can look back on them in the future and be grateful.

The day will come when all of us will be in Mom’s position. We will be looking back over our lives and melancholy will fill our hearts. Time marches on, friends pass and situations change in a heartbeat. None of us know when these things will come so it’s just the most important thing in all of life to be unendingly grateful for every experience that happens today and every day.

Blessings to you, my friends. Thanks for being here with us on this journey.

Love,

Suzy