A Happy and Harmonious Home Is In The Cards!

Welcome Back! I’m so glad you are here! Today is day 7 of our 78 days going through the Tarot cards. What a wonderful card we have pulled for today! Anyone who ever goes for a Tarot card reading would most likely feel the weight of the world lifted from their shoulders if this card appeared. The Ten of Cups shows us the perfect picture of a happy and harmonious home life. What a blessing!

First let’s look at the card. It shows a perfect, storybook cottage sitting on a lush, green lawn with an arching rainbow over top of it. Our 10 golden cups are placed on the rainbow to make a complete arch from the ground on one side of the cottage, over the roof and back to the ground on the other side. In the front yard are two beautiful, young women sitting on a bench working on a needlework project, a playful cat is in front of them. It perfectly tells the story of a peaceful, conflict free home. Just looking at the card makes me feel safe and happy!

Our homes are our refuge from the storms, our safe place when the rest of the world is in turmoil. We all need a soft place to land when the trials and tribulations of everyday life knock us off our feet. Coming home means so much to all of us.

According to numerology, the number 10 is reduced down to the number 1 which represents a new beginning. A home always indicates a new beginning. If a child grows up in a home filled with anger and hostility, or worse, with no home at all, purchasing his or her first home is even more important to him or her than to those of us who grew up in loving homes. It signals a new beginning, a fresh start in a home of his or her own. When a couple gets married and establishes their first home together, it is another new beginning. When a change in life come along that requires relocation to an unfamiliar place, finding a home is the first thing we need to do to make us feel grounded.

Home means everything! Having a happy home is a blessing beyond compare. As important as our earthly homes are, how much more divine will it be when we are finished with our earthly experience and get to go back to our spiritual homes? We know that our time here on Earth is short. We are here to learn lessons, complete missions and do our best to grow spiritually. Even in the best of circumstances, being here is hard! There are obstacles and challenges around every bend. Our earthly bodies get beat up along the way and start to degenerate as we age making everything even harder. We love and laugh. We scream and yell. We cry, worry and fret. Despite it all, we love our lives and our homes here on Earth. We do the very best with the cards we are dealt. None of us looks forward to the time we can shed these, heavy, dense bodies so that our spirits can return to our true home but what a glorious reunion it will be!

When we are born, God removes our memories of what our true home is like. If he didn’t, none of us would agree to stay here! LOL!!! We are given glimpses of what Heaven is like through our Holy Books but we can’t really remember. A few of us do remember brief glimpses of the glories awaiting our return, but not many. Knowing what reward is waiting at the end of this mission is what gets many of us through the tough days. The promise of returning home to God and the glories of Heaven makes it all worth while. When Heaven’s gate swings open and I feel the absolute love of God, when I hear the angels sing and when I run into the arms of all my spirit family members who have gone before, I will truly know that I am HOME – my ultimate soft place to land, my ultimate new beginning!

Thanks so much for being here! My gratitude for you is overflowing!



A Bright Future Lies Ahead! How Do You Get There?

Welcome back! I’m so glad you are here as we continue our journey through the Tarot cards. This is day 6 of 78 and the card I drew for today is the Two of Wands.

From a numerology perspective, two represents partnerships, cooperation or collaboration. This stands true with our Two of Wands. The card shows a traveler on a meandering path that splits in the near future. Just beyond the split in the path the two wands are firmly planted in the ground. In the distant background of the card we see two deer calmly grazing and looking at the traveler without fear. The whole meadow in front of the traveler is green and lush.

This card is filled with hopes and dreams for the future. The traveler is near the beginning of the path signifying that he has recently started the journey or, in this case, a new venture. Now he is firmly on the path of this new venture even though it is fairly new. The wands being firmly planted in the ground indicates that the new venture is firmly established and appears to be standing on its own. This gives the traveler a sense of satisfaction and the motivation to continue down the path. The lush foliage shows that the path is growing with great possibilities.

As I mentioned, ahead of the traveler the path splits into two different pathways. This indicates that as the traveler continues with the new venture, new opportunities are in the future. It also shows that a partnership may form or a new direction for the project could be coming. As both paths are equal in size and both continue through the fertile meadow, whatever choice the traveler makes will work out successfully. The only thing that will stall or stop the forward progression of the project is if the traveler lacks the motivation or the courage to keep going.

For me, this card is very exciting and refreshing. Having started several ventures in the past, I know the feelings of insecurity along the path to success. Once the venture is firmly established and the fruits of my labors start to show themselves, feelings of immense gratitude and excitement for the future bloom. As anyone who has birthed a new venture knows, there are always twists and turns along the way. Many times, as the venture gains momentum, bringing in a new partner or assistant becomes a necessity. There are also always decisions to be made that will alter the direction of the project. No matter how well you plan, new directions always present themselves if you are willing to see them. The most empowering feeling is knowing that you get to choose where the project goes!

Life is like this so many times. When we take a relationship from dating to marriage, there is a period of getting the marriage from the alter to a place of stability. Once this happens both people can stand side by side look at the future with a sense of security and great antisipation. When a baby is born, it brings with it so many emotions! We wonder if we will be good parents. We worry that we will do something wrong and the baby will be harmed. We fear we won’t be able to stay the course until the child is grown and on his or her own. But, once we are firmly on the parenthood path and the child is thriving, all of those insecurities fade. We anticipate the future with great expectations! We start to think of all the new adventures the baby will bring to our lives as he or she grows up. We relish each new phase of development thinking this new phase is even better than the last!

These concepts also hold true for any new venture we decide to embark upon at any phase of our lives! Whether it is starting a new business, or building a new home, changing jobs or leaving behind your childhood hometown, there will always be fears and doubts in the beginning. If we have the motivation and courage to keep moving forward with our dreams, we will eventually reach this place where the new venture is firmly established. We will stop looking at each day with worry and fear and will start looking past the place where we stand to the place we have the opportunity to go.

Thanks again for being here!



You Have The Strength To Get Through Your Challenges!

Today is day 5 of my 78 day Tarot Card Challenge! Thank you so much for being here. My gratitude is overflowing!

The card I pulled for today is the Strength Card. Just gazing at this beautiful card gives me strength and makes it clear that strength doesn’t necessarily mean we have to conquer our battles by using brute force. So many times it is our strength of Character or strength of Perseverance that wins the battles. The strength of Wisdom also comes to mind. When we are young, we sometimes don’t have the wisdom needed to successfully win our battles. We rely only on the surface strength we possess such as strong muscles, strong tongues and strong wills. It is only with age that we learn the strength of wisdom, patience and perseverance.

The Strength Card has a picture of a beautiful woman with her head held high walking under the starlit sky with a lion walking at her side. Starting at the top of the card, we see the dark of night. When we are facing a challenge, it can so often feel like we are walking in the dark, as if we can’t see the path clearly and we are afraid of what the darkness might be hiding. Challenges often bring fear into our lives. Being courageous doesn’t mean that we don’t feel the fear, it just means that we feel the fear but move forward through the challenge anyway.

I was in church one Sunday morning many years ago and I was praying for a person in my life who repeatedly faced the same challenges over and over and over again! I asked God, why did she have to go through all of this. Instantly a video started playing in my head. I saw a woman dressed in a ragged, brown cape running over very rocky and rough terrain. Right behind her was a pack of horrible, biting, growling creatures trying to bite at her heels. She kept running until she tripped and fell. Instinctively she gathered herself up into a ball, covered her head with her hands and tried to protect herself from the biting creatures. Their teeth were snapping all around her, threatening her with death. Finally, in desperation, the woman raised her head and looked at the demons all around her. With her determined gaze, the demons started to back up. The woman gathered herself up and stood firmly in her place. With this, the demons backed away from her though they were still growling and snapping at her. She gathered her inner fortitude, her inner strength, and grabbed one of the them by the scuff of the neck. Instantly that hideous creature turned into a docile, domestic house cat. She turned and saw a pile of cages right beside her. She shoved the cat in the cage and continued to do this with each and every creature that had been pursuing her. Once every single demon was transformed and caged, the woman walked away in peace. The lesson I learned from this is that all of us have times when it feels like we are being chased by demons. We fear for our lives and we run. At some point, we all have to stand up and face those demons. Once we look them in the eye and take action, those demons somehow lose their power over us. It is only after we conquer the demons that we can remove them from our lives. If we never deal with them, they will just continue to plague us over and over again. If we never tame our beasts, we can’t learn the lesson of strength.

I am also reminded of Jesus and his disciples. They were all in a boat when a vicious storm came upon them. Jesus was sleeping at the time. The disciples were all terrified and started trying to fight the storm with human strength but fear overtook them. They awoke Jesus who rebuked them for their lack of faith. Then he held out his arms and told the storm to become calm. The seas calmed just as he commanded and they were able to continue their journey. Jesus was calm in the eye of the storm and had faith that he was able to calm the waters using his wisdom and belief in his abilities – his inner strength and his knowledge that God would always be there to help. This inner strength is what will get us through the toughest challenges that come our way.

When challenges come and fear grips us tightly, we sometimes react violently to try to overpower the challenge. We lash out at people or act irrationally. These actions usually end with even more challenges arising. It’s by using the strength of our wisdom, the strength of our character and the strength of our perseverance that we are able to tame the beasts or calm the seas.

Thank you so much for being here today! I look forward to sharing with you again tomorrow!



Fear Is A Scary Thing!

Good Morning and Welcome to The Lanai and I!  This is the place where we openly explore our hopes and dreams for the future!  Thanks so much for being here!  

The title of this episode is Fear is a Scary Thing!!!  Before we get started, this episode is also available as a podcast and can be found on all your favorite podcast sights.   Please subscribe to our different channels so that you never miss a new episode.  OK, with all the housekeeping done, let’s jump in!

Let’s face it, we live in a fear based world.  The only way the puppet masters ruling the earth can keep us firmly in the grips of the matrix they have constructed is by keeping us in some sort of fear at all times.  

We are trained from the time we are born to live is fear.  We are afraid of what others will think.  We are afraid to be ourselves because we fear no one will like us.  We are afraid to put a voice to our hopes and dreams because others might ridicule us.  We are afraid of not following the standard path through life because we might fail.   And on and on it goes!  Fear rules our lives and keeps us from finding true joy in life.  

For me, putting my thoughts on paper  – and now into audible words – for the whole world to see and hear was terrifying!  It seems like it was just yesterday that I started on this journey when it has really been over 3 years!  I started very small – just a blog post every now and then.  I didn’t tell anyone about it at first.  Then I got brave and posted it to social media, but again, I wasn’t very consistent.  Then things started to change and I found strength.  

for my husband and I it was our vision of what we wanted our future to look like that led us to fears doorstep.  We had a dream.  For a long time we kept it to ourselves because we were afraid of what others would think.  I mean, who did we think we were to even THINK that we could actually slow down the frantic pace at which we lived our lives and enjoy the bounties of this awesome life?  

Think about that for just a minute.  We ALL have a fear of what others will think – of others criticizing us.  By giving into that fear, who is actually in control of our lives?  Other people are!  We are handing our happiness and our lives over to the opinions of others!  Does that make any sense at all?  No it doesn’t!  The ONLY people who should be in control of our lives is us!  That’s it!  Why do we think it is so important what other people think about us?  If we really looked at that fear, we would realize how pathetic it is because in reality, those other people don’t give a rat’s ass about us!  IF they were to criticize us, it is only because they want to keep us from moving ahead with our dreams because they have always been too scared to move ahead with their own dreams.  By keeping us back with them, they don’t have to look at their own failure to make their dreams their reality!  IF they laughed at us, their laughter is just a way of controlling us!  Is that really how you want to live your life?  At the mercy of other people’s opinions?  It shouldn’t be!

My husband and I are of the age that we grew up being programmed to believe that the only way to get ahead is to work harder and longer than the next guy.  You had to work as hard as humanly possible for as long as humanly possible if there was to be real financial reward by the time you reached retirement age.  So, that is exactly what we were doing!  Again, why were we doing this?  Out of FEAR!  Fear that we wouldn’t have enough money to retire on.  Fear that as we entered our golden years we would end up being homeless street people.  

Luckily we started waking up a couple of years ago.  It was a slow awakening but it happened.  We realized that we were living just to work!  We were not working so that we could live a joyous life.  We were not enjoying each other, we were not enjoying our home and we were not enjoying our lives.  We were simply working.  We had accumulated some assets, not a great fortune by any means but some figures on paper.  The problem was that we couldn’t even enjoy those assets because we were working all the time and again there was the element of fear!  We were so afraid of spending any money because it might deplete our resources for retirement. 

Once we realized this, we started talking about it.  What would happen if we stopped working or at least slowed down the frantic pace?  Well, we faced fear again!  We were afraid of what people would think if they found out we wanted to retire before we were 60.  The programming all of our lives had been so tight that we thought that retiring before age 65 was judgement worthy.   Can you imagine! Being afraid of what others thought about when we decided to leave the rat race!

As we continued to look at our dreams for our future, we realized we really wanted to move to a sunny, tropical location to enjoy our lives.  Once again, guess what popped up!  FEAR!  We were afraid of what would happen to our friends and family if we moved away!  Would some of them be mad that we abandoned them?  Would we lose some of them because of the distance separating us?  We let this fear rule our decision making for quite awhile.  We hashed it out frequently.  Finally we came to the realization that we live in a very technologically connected world.  We were also blessed with fast and easy travel methods.  Our true friends and family members who wanted to stay connected would stay connected.  It didn’t really matter where we were physically located – we were accessible no matter where we decided to live.  In fact, our moving to a tropical location might even be looked at by many as a positive thing because they would have a wonderful place to go for vacations!  

Finally, we faced our fears and decided to make our dreams come true.  It was and continues to be a huge test of our faith.  We had to turn a lot of the details over to God Almighty and we have been blessed for our faith.  All of our fears turned out to be pointless.  None of the horrible things we feared actually happened.  

That’s the thing about fear.  We spend our whole lives fearing what might happen, what could happen or what horrible event might come our way.  I have read many studies that prove that 90% of the things we fear in life never even come into being!  NINETY PERCENT never happen!!!  Think how much more happiness we could have in life if we worried about or feared things 90% less of the time.  How huge would that be?  How many dreams could we actually pursue if we had 90% less fear?  Instead of fearing the horrible things that could happen, what if we looked for all the wonderful things that have an equal or larger chance of happening!  That’s a new concept!  Looking for the positives instead of the negatives.  WOW!  That thought will lead us down an entirely different` rabbit hole so I think we will dive into that at a later time.  

My final thought is this, Is fear holding you back from something you really desire?  How hard would it be to just let it go and live a fearless life?  

Thanks for being here!  



Fear is a Scary Thing!

Hello Fellow Dreamers!  It seems like just yesterday that I took those first tentative steps into putting our hopes and dreams in print.  In reality it has been 10 months!  When I first started writing last April, I was afraid.  I was afraid to put in writing what The Love of My Life and I were thinking about.  I was afraid it would never come true.  I mean who were we to think that we could actually slow down the frantic pace at which we live our lives and enjoy the bounties of this awesome life?  The only way to be a success in life is to work as hard as possible until your body or your soul gives out, right?  That’s what I had always heard.  So that is what I believe(d).  I am still struggling to change that core belief but I am getting closer.  TLOML and I have worked – HARD – our whole lives!  Its kinda what we do.  It seems like we have had some sort of awakening over the past year or so.  We realized that we are simply living to work.  We are not working to live.  We are not enjoying each other, we are not enjoying our home, we are not enjoying our lives!  We are simply working!  We have accumulated assets – not a great fortune, but some numbers on paper.  The problem is, we can’t enjoy the fruits of our labors because we have to work!  What would happen if we stopped working or at least slowed down the frantic pace?  Well, I was afraid of that as well.


I was afraid that people would judge us for wanting to retire before we reached 60.  I was afraid that family would react negatively if we told them we wanted to move far away.  Then I started thinking about how few of our loved ones we actually see face to face during a year.  Mostly we keep up these relationships through social media or over the phone.  We can do those same things from anywhere in the world.  After facing these fears and really hashing them out together we have come to realize that the people we care most deeply about will be the ones who will come to visit us in our new tropical location.  It won’t be a couple of hours on a calendar designated holiday where chaos is sure to ensue, but an actual visit lasting many days – in a quiet location where work is far away!  That sounds way better to us!



I was afraid that if our clients and Facebook base found out we were thinking of selling the businesses, they would stop coming.  I was so afraid of this result that I practically tied our Broker’s hands when we asked him to sell it.  I wanted him to sell it but I didn’t want him to tell anyone who was selling or what we were selling.  That didn’t work very well.  So now it is more common knowledge that we are thinking of selling.  Most people don’t believe us when we tell them.  Our business has not suffered in any way at all and continues to grow each month.  I was afraid my staff would all jump ship if they found out we wanted to sell.  You know what actually happened when I told my staff that we were taking action to sell the business?  They all laughed at me and started talking about the next item on the meeting agenda.  Hmm – that wasn’t so bad.  So, the burden of fear made our progress painfully slow in the beginning.



I’m not saying we have completely conquered all of our fears but I will say that we have come a long way.  This is important when thinking about our ability to manifest our desires into our lives.  It is one thing to tell the universe exactly what we want and when we want it, but if we don’t believe it can happen or if we are secretly terrified of it becoming a reality, the universe will most likely not bring it to pass.  Even though our progress thus far has been so excruciatingly slow and painful, I think it has been useful.  Had everything fallen neatly into place right from the very first, we may have freaked out!  We may have been so overwhelmed that we may have regretted our decision.  With us having some time, we have been able to clear out a bunch of the stuff we have accumulated that we don’t want to clutter up our lives with anymore.  We have had time to think out the logistics of making a cross country move.  We have narrowed down exactly where we want to land within our dream area.  We have figured out what kind of property we will be happiest with.  We have become so much less fearful of taking such a drastic leap that now I feel like we are much more prepared.  We are ready to let go – to let go of what we have been attached to and to let go of the fear that has held us prisoner.

Is fear holding you back from something?  I would love to hear what you are afraid of.  Please leave comments below.  Let’s talk about it!