Following the Path to Joy!

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As I quickly approach my 60th birthday I have taken some time to reflect on my life. What an amazing journey it has been so far and I TRULY feel THE BEST IS YET TO COME!

With age comes a little bit of wisdom. These are some of the things I have learned so far:

  1. Doing something that brings you joy is more important than the size of the paycheck.
  2. The body we live in is only a space suit – it does not define who we are in our souls.
  3. Learning that “This Too Shall Pass” makes it easier to weather the storms that will come to all of us.
  4. Having faith that God can handle the situation without my help is HARD!!
  5. Defining people by their Job Title, how much money they have or by the status symbols they own is wrong.
  6. Re-hashing the injustices we experienced in our past robs us of the joy we could be experiencing today.
  7. Going through life with a true soul mate by our side whom we love deeply makes everything better.
  8. There is wonder and joy all around us if we only make the effort to see it.
  9. It’s OK to let your weird self out in the open for all to see. Your tribe will find you when you are authentic.
  10. Finding something to be truly grateful for every single day brings out the sweetness in life.

I am grateful for all the experiences I have had so far in my life. I am so grateful that for over half of my life I have had the divine miracle of going through life with my soul mate. We have weathered some horrible storms but we have also experienced the joy of seeing the sun come out again. Our joyful times far outweigh the our times of strife. Now we have reached the golden time in our lives when we can reap all that we have sown. After actively raising children in our home for 35+ years, we are rapidly approaching the time when it will just be us again. Our youngest is 19 and is finding his own path. All three of our kids are happy, safe and living their own forms of bliss. Seeing them like this is a gift beyond compare. What a joyful time lies at our feet! We have lived through a lot, learned a lot and loved a lot. I am eternally grateful for all of it!

While this is a very rewarding time in our lives, it is also a time of great transformation. What do we do now? What is next on our path? It has taken us quite a lot of time pondering this monumental question. There have been a few false starts, some backtracking, some map reading and some prayers, but we finally seem to be on the same page. We are ready for our next great project. What’s it going to be? All I can say right now is that it is going to be full of magic and adventure and wonderment and weirdness and joy. Hopefully you will want to come along for the ride!

Thanks for being here!


It’s Not All Sunshine and Roses. Sometimes there is Melancholy.

Moments with Momma – volume 4

Most of the time Mom is upbeat about her new life in SW Florida, but there have been a couple of days when she has felt differently. When questioned, she had a hard time describing what she was feeling. Then she found the word – Melancholy.

Hmmm, Melancholy. What a dark, foreboding, yet somehow romantic word. When I hear the word, I immediately think about the harsh, raw, wind blowing across the damp and dreary Scottish Moors. I feel the heaviness of the clouds as they blanket the landscape. I can feel the chill creep into the very bones of the heroines of a romantic novel as she draws her woolen shawl tightly around her shoulders. She gazes across the desolate moors thinking about the love of her life whose life was cut short as he bravely fought for the future of the kingdom, leaving her alone, heavy with his child in this lonely land.

When I asked her what her thoughts were when she was feeling melancholy, what she said actually gave credence to the above description. She talks about things that will never be again such as how she hasn’t been truly happy since my dad passed away, about how so many of her great friends have passed, how she misses doing all the things she use to be able to do that she will never be able to do again. She says it’s a heaviness in the heart. It’s not sadness or regret, just a heaviness from missing the people and things that were.

She explained to me that one of the biggest blows to a person’s life is when his/her driving privileges are taken away. It’s like stripping the person of their freedom. When Mom moved down here we all decided it was not safe for her to drive. Her reaction time has slowed and she was in a new and unfamiliar place. I am here every minute of every day to take her anywhere she wants to go whenever she wants to go but, I guess it’s just not the same.

So, the question I have been sitting with over the past few days is this: what is the lesson I can take away from these conversations? The answer? I need to be fully present every moment and to be fully engaged in everything life puts in front of me. I need to love a little deeper and express that love more openly. I need to appreciate my friends more completely. I need to never take for granted the ability to move freely and to drive. I need to notice the beautiful things around me, to drink in the fragrances of the flowers, to feel the breeze on my skin. Most importantly – I need to be so filled with gratitude for every single experience I have that I feel as light as air. I need to mentally record every experience and every moment of joy so I can look back on them in the future and be grateful.

The day will come when all of us will be in Mom’s position. We will be looking back over our lives and melancholy will fill our hearts. Time marches on, friends pass and situations change in a heartbeat. None of us know when these things will come so it’s just the most important thing in all of life to be unendingly grateful for every experience that happens today and every day.

Blessings to you, my friends. Thanks for being here with us on this journey.