There are a handful of quotes that have done much to shape my life. This famous quote from Henry Ford is one of them.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”.
I remember the exact moment I first read that quote. I was a newly licensed Realtor looking for a brokerage to place my license. As I was walking towards the office of one of the brokers, I saw this quote on a bulletin board. For the first 10 seconds I thought I had misread it – I didn’t get it. Then the lightbulb went on and in that moment I changed. I started to think differently.
Another quote I heard was “Everyone has their price”. The person who said this to me meant that anyone could be bought if the reward was big enough. Shortly after that I was reading the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. In the book, the author says that anyone is capable of achieving anything they want IF they were willing to pay the price to get it.
All of the sudden, the key to achieving ones desires became crystal clear. The phrase “I can’t” was instantly debunked. It was replaced with the phrase “I can if I am wiling to do what is necessary to make it come true”. Several years later along comes Steve Jobs. He cemented all of this thought into my all time favorite quote. “The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do”. Think what you want about Steve Jobs, he did more to change the world than anyone else I know. It could be argued that Henry Ford also changed the world in an equal fashion. Isn’t it ironic that both of these men had the same thought process! They were not “yes” men. They were “work with me to achieve great things or get the Hell out of my way” men.
So now we come to today. We are all capable of changing situations we don’t like – we just don’t THINK we can. For instance, at this present moment I am seeing parents from all over the world speaking up about how much they are against their children being masked in school. I chose this topic just because it is all over the news right now – and because I vehemently dislike the public schools system- but that’s just me – lol! I see over and over these angry parents going to school board meetings and yelling and producing evidence about how damaging the masks are but at the end of the day, their children are still going to school every day with a mask on. Yes, there are some parents and some children who are finally finding their back bone and walking out of schools but the number is small. The parents are throwing tantrums about the issue but are they really doing anything to change the situation for their children? Here is the fact. Homeschooling is legal in all 50 US states. I have not researched other countries but I feel strongly that there are always options. When the suggestion is made to the parents to pull their children out of school and homeschooling them, they immediately say they CAN’T. Really? Is it true that they can’t or is it true that they are not willing to pay the price necessary to actually stand up for their belief that masking children is a crime against humanity? Let’s go through a few of the CAN’Ts.
- I can’t do that – I work full time. DEBUNKED – do you HAVE to work or do you find your career so fulfilling that you are not wiling to give it up? If you say you HAVE to work, do you or are you not willing to give up the lifestyle you have created for yourself to live on a single income? Are you a single parent? There are still options. Can you work remotely? Can you work from your computer while your child works on theirs right beside you? Is your child old enough to stay home during the day and work on one of the thousands of online programs available? Would you be able to check up on their progress after you get home? Are there other parents who are equally fed up with masking who you could work with to form a co-op for homeschooling? In most cases, if parents want their children to be free of masks, there are ways to make it happen. Yes, the price might be moving to a place with a lower cost of living, or changing jobs or working with other parents to form a workable solution, but the solutions are out there if they are willing to pay the price to free their children.
- I can’t do that – I don’t have the credentials to teach. DEBUNKED – are you smart enough to do research on the internet to find one of the thousands of online programs? Do you trust your parenting skills enough to follow your child’s lead and let them direct at least a portion of their curriculum? Can you conquer enough of your fears to know that your children are YOUR children? They don’t belong to the school system. You have the right to teach your children whatever you want them to learn. Do you have an obligation to give them the best education possible? Of course! But if you are truly advocating for your child, you will achieve this goal all on your own without fearing intervention from the school.
- I can’t do that – I don’t know what the requirements are for my kids education put forth by the state. DEBUNKED – again, the school system does not own your children! You can make the decisions as to what they learn. If you live in a state that requires periodic mass testing, you can find out what your child will need to learn in order to pass the tests. From being a homeschooling parent to one of our 3 children, I can assure you that the programs out there are fantastic! I can also tell you that by having a more experience based education, your child will learn what they need to learn and will learn it better than sitting quietly and behaving in a classroom.
- I can’t do that – my child needs socialization. DEBUNKED! This was my biggest fear but guess what? It was never a problem! There are so many options for sports, clubs and all the activities for children who are homeschooled.
I could go on all day but here is a case in point. Our youngest child just could not handle going to public school. He is incredibly intelligent and knows his own mind enough to know that what they were forcing him to learn was not relevant to his life. He also couldn’t stand how slowly the learning actually took place in the classroom. We finally decided to let him be his own person and pulled him out of public school as he was entering his Freshman year in high school. Of course I questioned myself because we are programmed to think that only school teachers in accredited schools are able to teach children. Once I decided to let go of that programming, we were off to the races. He completed three years of high school using a combination of online programs and experience based learning that we provided. He was able to finish a full day of classes in about 2 hours and then he was free to learn and do what he chose to learn and do. The summer before his senior year we decided to move to a different state. He decided he would go to public school his senior year so he could get his diploma. Long story short, because he had been homeschooled the schools system would not let him start as a senior. Instead, we filed paperwork to let him be tested as an adult to test out of high school. After just 3 years of homeschooling, he was successful and received a full diploma from the State of Florida. He didn’t even need to do his senior year! Then he thought about college. Because he had been home schooled but did have a diploma, he was able to just take placement tests to see what level classes he would need to start with. He passed all the tests with flying colors and was admitted as a full Freshman. After one semester he decided college was not for him. No problem. At 19 years old, he is well on his way to great success in the career path he chose for himself.
It is time we all stopped with the “CAN’T game and learned the we CAN. We have to get rid of the programming we have been subjected to our whole lives and we have to let go of the FEAR that has been instilled in us since birth. Fear cannot rule our lives! We have to be wiling to pay the price that being free of fear will require. It will be worth it in the end.
If you know anyone who needs to believe in themselves, please share this post with them. We all need a little encouragement right now!
Thanks so much for being here!