How Do You See Yourself? How Do Other People See You? Why Do You Care?

Hello my friends! Ahhh – so many questions today! This is not the blog post I had planned for today but one must listen to the calling of inner wisdom, that wee small voice in the back of the mind, that guides us.

So, the first question is “How Do You See Yourself?” If I put out a poll to 1000 people and those people were all 100% honest, the results would be that most people, especially women, see themselves in some sort of negative way. “I’m too fat. I’m too skinny. I’m too tall. I’m too short. I have an ugly nose. I have an ugly body. I’m socially awkward. I’m a nerd that nobody likes. I’m so weird nobody could ever love me. I’m not smart enough to ever be successful.” And on and on and on! Why? Why do we do this to ourselves? Believe me, I have done it to myself my whole life. I always saw myself as an awkward, oddball, misfit who somehow didn’t deserve to be successful in life even though I owned my own business that was hugely successful. No matter how successful the business became, I always thought it wasn’t good enough which translated to I wasn’t good enough. Oh, I put up the good front. I acted self confident and happy about things but inside was a different story. I felt like I had this beautiful, creative, joyful soul deep inside me that had been beaten into submission through the life experiences we all go through. You know, the failed tests, the undone homework, the failed relationships, the lost jobs, the cruel comments from others, the embarrassing mistakes that make you want to die, the financial failures, etc. These are the things we fixate on our whole lives instead of focusing on all the successes we have had in life. We forget about the awards we won, the people we helped, the children we shaped, the unbelievable hardships we overcame. Believe me, I understand!

But then something miraculous happened. One of the two or three people in the world who knows me all the way to my soul gave me a birthday card. On the front of the card was a picture of the most adorable, joyful, little girl I had ever seen. Then my friend said to me, “that picture is SO YOU!” My friend of 45 years who has seen me through the good, the bad and the ugly, didn’t see the weird, broken, misfit me that I saw. In her eyes, I was this joyful child on the card! At that instant, something deep inside me shifted. She didn’t see the failed human me, she saw my soul. My soul awakened and felt safe to come to the surface. Then I had to ask myself a question. If she saw me in this way, was it possible that others in my life saw me differently than I saw myself? After a lifetime of assuming others saw me as the awkward, oddball, misfit, was it possible that others actually saw my good qualities? I started to believe it might be possible! What a great feeling! Could this also be true for you? Is it possible that those close to you have never ever seen you as the failed and flawed being you see yourself to be? Could it be that they see you for who you really are – a divinely created soul? I absolutely believe this is true for you! I absolutely believe that the “you” you see and the “you” they see are two entirely different versions of yourself. They see you for all your goodness and kindness and pure love. How wonderful would it be if you were able to see yourself through their eyes? Maybe its time to try!

All of this brings us to the final question: Why do you care how other people see you? Because the truth could set you free! How many years have you assumed that everyone around you sees you exactly as you see yourself? How life changing would it be if you came to believe that all those around you actually see you for who you really are under the damaged outer layer? What if those around you never judged you for the test you failed that they didn’t even know about or that time you fell down in public and everyone laughed? What if they forgot that ever happened or what if they did remember it happened but they also remembered the way you laughed together as they helped you to your feet? What if all the things you have been beating yourself up about for decades never even made it to the memory banks of those who love you? What if they remembered the time you stopped the car and ran to move a turtle out of the path of traffic? What if they remembered how you stood up for the child who was being bullied in school? What if they remembered the time you sat with them all night after a painful breakup? Why do you care? Because maybe they can see the real you and knowing that could change everything!

My challenge to you is to ask those closest to you what memory about you stands out most in their minds. Ask those close to you what qualities they see in you. Ask them how they see you. It might just change your world!

Thank you so much for being here!!! I look forward to being with you again in a couple of days.

Love and Light!

Suzy

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