Let me start by saying that I for sure don’t have all the answers! By my very nature I am high-strung, anxiety ridden and driven – quite the opposite of calm! However, I have also always been a student of the great wisdom teachers both ancient and contemporary. All of the wisdom texts tell us to be still.
There was a time not too many years ago when I was diagnosed with high blood pressure. Imagine that!!! Hard to believe – I know – but its true. For a couple of years I was on blood pressure medicine which corrected the symptoms and I didn’t think about it too much. Then started all the TV ads for lawsuits against this medication and that medical procedure. These were all medications and treatments that had been deemed safe by the powers that be. Now we were finding out that they were not safe. People were suffering long-term and even deadly effects from these “safe” medical practices. It made me wonder – is this blood pressure medicine really safe? It probably was but it made me wonder again – is it solving my blood pressure problem or just lowering my blood pressure? I decided to do an experiment. I had a routine appointment scheduled with my doctor to check my blood pressure in about 30 days. I decided to see if I could solve the problem without medication. (Please don’t do this on your own for any medical condition. Always consult your doctor before changing any medical routine.). Being who I am I obviously had to set goals. I would spend the first 10 days researching ways to reduce blood pressure naturally while weaning myself off of the medication. I would spend the next ten days putting into practice what I had learned from my research. During the final 10 days I would take my blood pressure 3 times every day, record the results and record what I was doing at the time of the reading. I would then present my data to the doctor and plead my case that I didn’t need the medication anymore. If I couldn’t get the numbers down and if my plan didn’t work, I would gladly stay on the medication because I would have proved to myself that it was best for my health.
During my research phase, it seemed like every single thing I read exalted the practice of meditation for reducing blood pressure. Of course I thought meditation was so weird thing where I would be in some sort of trance and see visions of who knows what. That seemed a little out there for me but, what the heck, lets give it a go! So the first part of learning to meditate is learning to quiet the mind – kind of like resting a muscle after over exerting it for a long period of time. With all the thoughts and activities going on in my brain, I was definitely over exerting it! That part made sense. I just needed to give my mind a few minutes of quiet rest every day. That would, in turn, relax my whole being, reduce my stress and anxiety and lower my blood pressure. Perfect!!! That was the goal. I would sit on a cushion in a quiet place and relax my mind. Then my blood pressure would drop to normal and I would be good to go! OK! Let’s meditate!
Well! That was the first time that I realized that I had a three-ring circus on steroids going on in my head!!! The books said to just watch the thoughts come and go in your mind and then release them into nothingness. Just observe them passively instead of interacting with them. So I did that! I started to notice all the thoughts going on in there and observe them. Let me tell you – that first day it looked like an L.A. freeway during rush hour with a wild-fire evacuation order in effect in my mind!!! Good Heavens! There were thoughts and feelings crashing around in there like a room full of toddlers with ADHD! No wonder I was so stressed! So this was my starting place. It took a few weeks of trying to relax my mind every day to get to the point where I could let it all go for a few minutes each day. And you know what! It worked. I started feeling calmer and more relaxed. I did it for 20 days in a row before I started taking my blood pressure readings. By the time I went to the doctor, I had a chart with normal readings most of the time. It wasn’t perfect, but it was better. I told her what I had been doing and she gave me her blessing to stay off the medication as long as I continued to monitor it at home. I also had to promise that if it could no longer be managed I would need to reconsider the medication.
That was a couple of years ago. It seems to me that I have fallen off the relaxation wagon. I haven’t taken my blood pressure in a very long time. I will report on what my numbers are currently when I join you again on Friday. I have a feeling I might have some work to do. Maybe it is time to get back into a better place. Maybe all this mountain climbing I have been doing and now the deep desire to get off the mountain are wake up calls to get back to a place of peace. Maybe I need to relearn how to be peaceful and happy where I am while taking steps to get to where I want to be next. Would you like to take this journey with me? Hit the Subscribe button so we can do this together!
I received a comment on yesterday’s post that kinda made me stop for just a minute. The comment was that maybe, for whatever reason, the timing is just not right for The Love of My Life and I to make such a drastic change and God is telling us to wait.
That made me think of several different things such as the old saying “be careful what you pray for because you might just get it!” and also Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 “there is a time for everything and a season for everything.”
Maybe my reader has a divinely valid point. We have both prayed so hard, for so long that the changes we are seeking will come to be. God is well aware of what we think we want. We don’t have to keep making our wishes known over and over and over. The stress and anxiety of pushing for our goals so hard is overwhelming! Maybe it is time to relax, enjoy, be grateful and cherish today! Maybe we don’t have to MAKE things happen. Instead maybe we just need to LET things happen. All the players and pieces are in place. Maybe its OK to just let things work themselves out. Maybe its OK to let everyone do what they are suppose to be doing without our interference.
It feels so good to just relax today! Where we are right now is actually really comfortable! We have a nice home with all the modern conveniences, the businesses are providing a very adequate income, all of our bills are paid, we drive newer vehicles, we have plenty of food in the pantry, we are healthy, our kids are all doing well right now, we get to see both of our moms and our grandson frequently and I actually love running a thriving bridal shop! So what do I have to complain about?
If I am getting a little tired, there is nothing that says I can’t start taking a few days off here and there. I have an amazing staff in place who can run things with their eyes closed. Maybe I don’t have to get to work an hour before anyone else gets there. Maybe I don’t have to get up at 2:00 a.m. to answer Facebook messages to the shop. Maybe its OK to not answer business emails before my first cup of coffee. Maybe I just need to stop making my own life so hard!!! Maybe I just need to get out of my own way!
With this new mindset I was able to sleep in this morning! I was able to come to work without the weight of the world on my shoulders. I made a To Do List for myself and the staff and we got it all done! And it was easy! Somewhere along the way I forgot to enjoy what I love doing and made it all too difficult! I am so grateful for the bounty of blessings we all experience each and every day!
Maybe I’ll just let God work out the details and I’ll take time to enjoy the ride. I want to thank my valued reader for the words of wisdom and I want to share them with all of you. Are there things in your life that just don’t seem to be working out? Are your struggles weighing you down and wearing you our to your very core? Maybe its OK to give yourself permission to just turn it over to your higher power and relax a little bit. If worrying and stressing won’t change it, then let it go! Today might be our last day on this earth. Maybe we should take the time to enjoy it!
As I enter my late 50’s I am continually amazed at just how weird this stage of life is! Up to this point my life has been totally focused on climbing that mountain. You know the one – get through high school with a list of achievements and good grades, get through college with a list of accomplishments and good grades, get a job, get married, have children, pour myself into raising those children to the best of my ability, get those kids almost launched, start over with a new baby (ok so maybe most don’t start over with a new baby when in their 40’s but it sounded like fun at the time), get the older kids out on their own, start and build a flourishing business, work hard, work hard, work hard. Then all the sudden there came a day when I realized just how tired I was – and still am. All the sudden it seemed like my goals changed. Climbing that mountain suddenly didn’t seem so important. What seemed more important was to turn around, sit down on the mountain and admire the view from exactly where I was. Have you been there? Are you getting there yourself? Isn’t this a weird place to be?
So here I am sitting on my mountain admiring the view when something else weird happens I rested for just a minute and felt satisfaction from the climb I had achieved. Then I suddenly realized that all I wanted was to get off that mountain! I wanted to get my feet back on level ground. WHAT!!! Stop climbing! How could that be! I was that driven, goal oriented over achiever my whole life. What was this feeling of just wanting to be done? More importantly, how was I going to get off this mountain? The LOML and I decided we were both at the same point at the same point. Together we decided we just wanted to sell our businesses and move to a place where we could just be. Oh how glorious it was going to be! We would just sell our businesses, buildings and home, pack up and move to sunny weather where we could drink fruity cocktails on the lanai! Ok! Let’s make that happen! Right now! Ready Set Go! And we came to a screeching halt! It’s just not that easy to sell a business! For months now we have been living in the balance. Wanting so badly to have the businesses sold while still having to grow the businesses so they will maintain or increase in value for a potential buyer. But I don’t want to build it anymore! But I have to. I have to keep going even though going further up the mountain is exactly the opposite of where I want to go! Potential buyers come in and are very interested. Talks go on for weeks. Then buyers decide to walk away for awhile to think about it. We have been through this twice now. We get so excited that the long awaited offer is imminent just to be disappointed repeatedly. This is so new for me! I have never before in my life wanted something so badly and not been able to make it happen! Is any of this familiar to anyone else at this stage of life? The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that one day, the offer will come, everything will fall into divine order and magic will happen. That is the dream that keeps me on this mountain for just a little bit longer.
Any other mountain climbers out there who have suddenly realized that getting back to the base camp is more important than reaching the summit? How are you getting off your mountain? I would love to hear about it!