Hello Fellow Dreamers! It seems like just yesterday that I took those first tentative steps into putting our hopes and dreams in print. In reality it has been 10 months! When I first started writing last April, I was afraid. I was afraid to put in writing what The Love of My Life and I were thinking about. I was afraid it would never come true. I mean who were we to think that we could actually slow down the frantic pace at which we live our lives and enjoy the bounties of this awesome life? The only way to be a success in life is to work as hard as possible until your body or your soul gives out, right? That’s what I had always heard. So that is what I believe(d). I am still struggling to change that core belief but I am getting closer. TLOML and I have worked – HARD – our whole lives! Its kinda what we do. It seems like we have had some sort of awakening over the past year or so. We realized that we are simply living to work. We are not working to live. We are not enjoying each other, we are not enjoying our home, we are not enjoying our lives! We are simply working! We have accumulated assets – not a great fortune, but some numbers on paper. The problem is, we can’t enjoy the fruits of our labors because we have to work! What would happen if we stopped working or at least slowed down the frantic pace? Well, I was afraid of that as well.
I was afraid that people would judge us for wanting to retire before we reached 60. I was afraid that family would react negatively if we told them we wanted to move far away. Then I started thinking about how few of our loved ones we actually see face to face during a year. Mostly we keep up these relationships through social media or over the phone. We can do those same things from anywhere in the world. After facing these fears and really hashing them out together we have come to realize that the people we care most deeply about will be the ones who will come to visit us in our new tropical location. It won’t be a couple of hours on a calendar designated holiday where chaos is sure to ensue, but an actual visit lasting many days – in a quiet location where work is far away! That sounds way better to us!
I was afraid that if our clients and Facebook base found out we were thinking of selling the businesses, they would stop coming. I was so afraid of this result that I practically tied our Broker’s hands when we asked him to sell it. I wanted him to sell it but I didn’t want him to tell anyone who was selling or what we were selling. That didn’t work very well. So now it is more common knowledge that we are thinking of selling. Most people don’t believe us when we tell them. Our business has not suffered in any way at all and continues to grow each month. I was afraid my staff would all jump ship if they found out we wanted to sell. You know what actually happened when I told my staff that we were taking action to sell the business? They all laughed at me and started talking about the next item on the meeting agenda. Hmm – that wasn’t so bad. So, the burden of fear made our progress painfully slow in the beginning.
I’m not saying we have completely conquered all of our fears but I will say that we have come a long way. This is important when thinking about our ability to manifest our desires into our lives. It is one thing to tell the universe exactly what we want and when we want it, but if we don’t believe it can happen or if we are secretly terrified of it becoming a reality, the universe will most likely not bring it to pass. Even though our progress thus far has been so excruciatingly slow and painful, I think it has been useful. Had everything fallen neatly into place right from the very first, we may have freaked out! We may have been so overwhelmed that we may have regretted our decision. With us having some time, we have been able to clear out a bunch of the stuff we have accumulated that we don’t want to clutter up our lives with anymore. We have had time to think out the logistics of making a cross country move. We have narrowed down exactly where we want to land within our dream area. We have figured out what kind of property we will be happiest with. We have become so much less fearful of taking such a drastic leap that now I feel like we are much more prepared. We are ready to let go – to let go of what we have been attached to and to let go of the fear that has held us prisoner.
Is fear holding you back from something? I would love to hear what you are afraid of. Please leave comments below. Let’s talk about it!